Dating off debt
"I was the one working 50-plus hours a week and paying all the bills, but he felt entitled concerning money that it was mutual property," she says.
Like many relationships in which money and debt become a sticking point, there are usually some early warning signs that go unnoticed or overlooked in the first, endorphin-filled rush of a new relationship.
"He used to make so many of these jokes," she recalls.
When they started getting serious, there were enough red flags about his financial health that she even postponed the wedding for a year until she felt that he'd become more fiscally responsible.
In the golden days of a new relationship, money is usually the furthest thing from anyone’s mind.
Hearts are fluttering, connections are being made and love is in the air — why would anyone want to ruin that with a conversation about dollars and cents?
Except your new love is carrying one piece of baggage you hadn't counted on: credit card debt. In a new Nerd Wallet/Harris Poll survey of more than 2,000 adults, 35% of those who combine at least some part of their finances with a partner brought credit card debt into the relationship.
(Men are more likely to do so than women, by the way).
For example, maybe you’d date someone that had ,000 in credit card debt, but had a plan to be debt-free within a year. Would you date someone with 0,000 in student loans, knowing that their debt would likely have a significant effect on the timing of buying a house, getting married, having children, travel, etc?If you’re still dating, here are some points to consider so you can avoid that situation.This doesn’t mean all hope is lost if you’re already married when your partner comes clean about his or her debt — it’s still completely possible to tackle the debt together, but having a mutually agreed upon plan that both of you can stick to should be a priority.But are poor financials a big enough reason to eliminate someone as a potential mate? Now, I usually don’t write about press releases or surveys that I get sent, but I thought this one was fun, and also pretty interesting.According to a new survey by Match.com, almost half of Canadians would not date someone who is in debt. Here are a few more results: Related: Could you ever marry for money?