Single mom dating man no kids
In those months of being alone, I found my own happiness.It had been a long time since I viewed myself as an individual rather than a wife or a mother. I was no longer looking for someone to complete my life – that role belonged to my daughter.
So as I peruse my Facebook and Twitter, I see this lovely blog from a Shawn James, stating his 14 reasons why real men don’t date single mothers. Something tells me, that his experiences with women who don’t have children, probably goes along these lines as well. And being a man without kids, I’m not exactly sure what makes him the authority to tell someone they aren’t beautiful or attractive simply because they are single with children.I planned on keeping my married name, raising my 2-month-old daughter alone, and living out some kind of disservice.As a mom, you’re wired to put your children before yourself. But like they tell you on airplanes, you can’t help anyone with their oxygen mask until you put your own on. But the fact of the matter remains that the kids are here, and they need to be cared for. I don’t expect anyone to run up and save me, because as far as I’m concerned, I can save myself, thank you very much. We all don’t need captains for our boats, we’re not all sinking. Once again, that sky- is-always-falling-so-she-can-have-attention type of woman is like that with or without kids. Apparently we all just want to use a guy to get our child’s father back or to just get free meals and gifts. He brought an airport carousel full of luggage to saddle one group of women with, but apparently we’re the ones with magazine amounts of issues. James seems to associate a horrible pathetic, pitiful, unattractive, and fat life for single mothers. To say any man would be her last priority just because clearly you were made to be a last priority by someone is ridiculous. Hell, I messed up with my choices in fathers, TWICE! Again, that just has to be the type of woman he gets. I didn’t bring everyone my problems before my kids, I don’t bring them to everyone now. “A single mother has no interest in a man she’s dating.” The hurt just oozes from this statement. James, I am 26, have two kids with two different men, I’m 5′ 7″, 230 lbs, and currently am a cashier at retail store and a front desk agent at a hotel. I bet money that the number of men who lie about how many children they have, outnumbers the women. If I am already “never available” as he’s previously stated, I don’t have time to waste. Everyone has baggage, children are not a requirement for it.